Rachael wants to start exercising and toning up. She has a basic idea how to eat healthy and she knows that in order to reach her goals that she will have to get to the gym and start weight training. She goes to the store and buys a few fitness magazines, and when she is finished reading them she is more confused than before she started.
Just like Rachael, most people want to change everything in their life overnight because they think that’s the only way to make progress to their goals. This isn’t the best way to attack those goals.
But what should you do then?
Small changes in your habits will lead to success, trust me. Small incremental changes to your habits creates a ripple effect in your health.
An example would include ditching soda/calorie-filled drinks. IBISWorld reports soda consumption in the United States reached 40.4 gallons per person in 2021. Studies suggest drinking 1 soda per day for a year could lead to gain an average of 28 pounds per year. Cutty over at Cutty Strength used to drink a lot of soda. He lost over 70 pounds in one year simply kicking the soda habit and barely increasing his physical activity.
Going to the gym is overwhelming, so it’s no wonder why people give up after a few weeks. Keep on reading to get some useful tips on changing your lifestyle.
Looking to add more ab work to the mix? Check out this 2 day workout routine for abs at home.
Nutrition Tips
I tell my clients that you cannot out exercise a bad diet. If you can control what nutrition goes into your body, you can change your body. Period.
“Going on a diet” and your diet (what you eat) are two different things — I want to change what you see as regular foods.
This doesn’t mean we are going to cut off food groups from our diet, it means that we are going to provide proper nutrition to our bodies.
Planning is the most important word that you need to learn next to willpower. You can eat the cake, donuts, and ice cream in moderation… especially when you plan your meals. The issue a lot of people have is the planning and execution of what you’ll eat. This leads to “panic eating” or making otherwise unhealthy choices that foil your progress to achieve your goals.
How?
Eating those sinful treats is something I think everyone should do. You only live once. If you want to eat something sinful, planning out your meals can allow you to do so. The old school tried and true method of counting calories helps, but it shouldn’t be the only thing you look at. You can eat a doughnut or two during the week because you cut down on calories and you ultimately “save your carbs” for that meal.
A good rule of thumb is get 80% of your calories through as many fresh proteins, veggies, and fruits as you can. The other 20% can be what you want. Depriving yourself of foods you have grown to love makes you miserable and spiteful against getting in shape.
For example, if you eat 2,000 calories per day, you can have 400 calories of foods you enjoy. That’s a lot to indulge in if you got the rest of your calories through whole foods.
Healthy Proteins
Proteins should be priority number 1 in your meal planning. You need to eat plenty of protein to recover fully from all of the exercising and weight training you do.
- Chicken – There are hundreds of ways to enjoy chicken. Chicken breasts are usually the go to, but I would invite you try boneless skinless thighs… they are so tasty!
- Eggs – These are great for every meal. They are very nutritious and can be served many ways. If you’re a volume eater, scrambled eggs can fill you up.
- Beef – Ground beef, steaks, whatever you enjoy. Fattier cuts will have more calories, but they are full of nutrition.
- Turkey – Ground turkey is a leaner substitute to ground beef if you need to cut fats or calories.
- Supplements – protein shakes or protein bars are easy and can be had on the go. I would invite you to use protein shakes to supplement your fitness journey, not as a meal replacement. You’re going to be hungry since you aren’t eating as much food — turning one of your meals into a drink can lead to feeling like you are hungrier than you are.
Healthy Carbs
Carbs catch a bad rap because there are so many myths that people believe are true. Carbs are a source of energy and are important, but when eaten in excess they are stored as fat. Carbohydrates are important when you are active, and they are one of the most important nutrients needed for a healthy functioning brain.
- Rice – Any rice is great, when measured. Properly measured portions are important. If you want more volume, try adding bell peppers, onions, eggs, mushrooms, and other veggies to your rice. Try out some of the whole grain rice options!
- Oatmeal – Oatmeal is great because it is full of nutritious fiber and slow-release carbohydrates. I love some oatmeal with honey and/or some protein powder. Fruit is also great in oatmeal.
- Potatoes – Potatoes are great because they are versatile and relatively cheap. Fries and chips are awesome, but a nice baked potato or homemade mashed potatoes with some grilled chicken thighs make a great meal that isn’t as calorie dense.
- Fruit – Different fruits contain different nutrients. Try some new fruits, you never know what you’ll like. Fruit is full of fiber and natural carbohydrates. I keep fruit around when I get a craving for sweets. It’s satiating and tastes great.
Healthy Fats
Fats make you fat, right? Wrong. Healthy fats are extremely important for a healthy body because they help regulate hormones, they are satiating, and frankly they make food taste better.
- Avocado and Avocado Oil – I love avocados. I put them on sandwiches, burgers, pasta, on toast. Avocado oil is tasty and has a higher smoke point. You won’t burn your foods as easy.
- Olive Oil – Another great option for oil. Drizzle some of this or avocado oil on your salads with some fresh cracked black pepper and salt.
- Sour Cream – There are plenty of studies suggesting full fat dairy products calms the digestive tract, decreases the chance of heart disease, and they can help lower the risk of diabetes.
- Real Butter – See above. Don’t use a whole stick of butter, obviously.
As with all of this, moderation and planning are key. There’s no reason to stop eating your favorite foods you just need to adjust the rest of your diet accordingly.
Check out these 39 fat loss myths debunked while you’re at it.
Cardio
No more hours of cardio!
Spending hours on the cardio machines do nothing but burn you out and make you wish you never started going to the gym in the first place (trust me I know).
So here’s the deal…
- 5-10 minutes warm up when you first get to the gym – this is going to get your blood pumping and prime your body for exercise. Choose something that isn’t too hard on the body such as walking, bicycling, or the elliptical.
- 15-30 minutes after you are done weight training – this will boost your metabolism and help your body start to recover from the abuse you just put it through. Here is a good article about the effects of cardio on muscle growth; check it out.
For your post workout cardio you can tackle it in one of two ways; hard and fast or nice and slow.
- Hard and fast – 10-20 minutes of high intensity interval training. This means running for a certain amount of time and then walking for a short break, rinse, and repeat. I won’t go into detail about HIIT training but if you do not know what it is, check out this article about HIIT training from Muscle & Fitness Magazine.
- Nice and slow – 20-30 minutes of lower intensity cardio. Think of this as a brisk walk or slight jogging. Something that you can do so that you are breathing hard but not so much you couldn’t regularly carry on a conversation.
Do this and get out of the gym.
I invite you to find something you can do outdoors away from the gym that will keep you active. Choose anything that interests you like picking up a sport, bicycling, or hiking… use your imagination. The reason you are going to the gym is to look and feel better, right? Go have some fun.

Weight Training
Here comes the part you’ve been dreading; the weight training. The gym is intimidating especially to those who haven’t actually even been in one or used any of the machines yet. If you haven’t picked out a gym yet, check out these 6 tips for picking the right gym.
First thing’s first; everyone has been there and no one will laugh at you. Don’t be afraid to ask a nearby patron for advice or help if you are unsure how to do something. Most people in the gym are like you and don’t want to talk to anyone.
To those who I meet that have never set foot into a gym, I invite them to take a week to get used to the environment. Try out the machines, get a feel for everything in the gym. Take time to try out all of the machines and free weights. Your mood will be high, your disappointment will be low, and you’re forging a path to a new you one day at a time.
Once you are more comfortable with the equipment in your gym, it’s time to start with the routine.
If you do not plan on having anyone train with you, I advise checking out YouTube or the links I provide with the workout names to see how they are done. I’ve chosen exercises that are not hard to get the movement correct. A personal trainer can help get you going on the right path, too.
What weight should you pick?
After you get into your routine, you will need to take another week testing out weight to see what is suitable for each exercise. Now is the time to take it seriously and start to get a feel for what weight you will be picking.
You are going to want to pick a weight that isn’t so heavy you cannot complete all of the reps safely, but not so light that you barely break a sweat. Remember, you have to struggle and push yourself to change, nothing will come easy.
Remember to log your progress!
Check out this short article about free weights and how much is too much. I went into better detail about how much weight you should choose and why. Look at the workout schedule below and test the lifts. If an exercise calls for 12 reps, you want to be struggling to achieve 12 reps. Use a heavier weight until you safely struggle to complete the 12th rep.

Progression
The reason your body get stronger, builds muscle, and gets leaner is because your body adapts to the condition it is being put in. If you are forcing your body to press 25 pounds, your body will adapt and make it easier to press 25 pounds… That is when you start pressing 30.
Many gym goers make the mistake of using the same weight for that exercise every time they go to the gym. Don’t fall for that trap and strive to do at least one more rep or go up in weight each time you walk into the gym.
The progression scheme is easy:
- Pick a weight you struggle to achieve the reps below. You will use this same weight for all 3 sets.
- If you achieve the sets and reps below, the next time you will add weight.
- If you fail to make all of the reps in each set, next time use the same weight and achieve it.
- Repeat for as long as you run this program.
Routine Schedule
Schedules are hectic and I get that. The great thing about training is there is no absolute “set in stone” rules for when you train. There are some guidelines you should follow when choosing your workout schedule, but nothing you need to worry about.
If you want to take your health seriously and turn this into your lifestyle, you need to take time for yourself. Work around your schedule, quit making excuses, and do your best to consistently exercise.
The ideal schedule would look like this:
- Sunday: Off
- Monday: Workout 1
- Tuesday: Off
- Wednesday: Workout 2
- Thursday: Off
- Friday: Workout 3
- Saturday: Off
They key points to take away from this is if you can get a day of rest in between a workout, that’s great. I would not suggest doing all three days one after the other because you will be very tired and unable to recover quick enough.
3 Day Female Beginners Gym Workout
Download a copy of the workout so you can print it out and take to the gym!
Workout 1 |
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| Exercise | Sets | Reps |
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| Chest Machine of Choice* | 3 | 12 |
| Dumbbell Incline Bench Press | 2 | 8 |
| Incline Dumbbell Chest Fly | 2 | 10 |
| Close Grip Bench Press | 4 | 5 |
| Seated Dip Machine | 3 | 12 |
| 1 Arm Tricep Extension | 2 | 15 |
| Planks | 3 | ALAP |
Workout 2 |
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| Exercise | Sets | Reps |
|---|---|---|
| Back Machine* | 3 | 12 |
| 1 Arm Dumbbell Rows | 2 | 8 |
| Seated Close Grip Rows | 4 | 10 |
| Shoulder Machine* | 2 | 6 |
| Cross Body Hammer Curl | 3 | 12 |
| Curl Machine* | 2 | 15 |
| Decline Situps | 3 | AMAP |
Workout 3 |
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| Exercise | Sets | Reps |
|---|---|---|
| Barbell Walking Lunges | 3 | 10 |
| Leg Extensions | 2 | 15 |
| Leg Curls | 2 | 15 |
| Goblet Squats | 3 | 8 |
| Standing Calf Raise | 2 | 20 |
| Medicine Ball Crunches | 2 | 20 |
| Ab Machine of Choice* | 3 | AMAP |
Workout Tips
- Machine* – Pick a machine you like and feel comfortable with. Be sure that it works the body part in the workout. Most machines are clustered together so finding one that you like that works the body part you are looking for will be easy.
- ALAP – As long as possible. Perform this exercise for as long as you can… Feel the burn.
- AMAP – As many as possible. Perform this exercise for as many reps as possible. Only stop when you feel you can no longer safely do more reps.
Gym Essentials
Below are some of my gym essential top picks you can pick up on Amazon. All of the links below are Amazon affiliate links — this means if you were to click a link and buy something, I would get a small commission.. If you’ve found my article helpful or if you have been using this workout for a while and you’re seeing great results, it helps me produce more content and reach more people.
Gym Bag
There are some die hard gym goers that go in empty handed, while others seem to be packing like they are moving in. A gym bag is always a solid choice to carry all of your belongings. Things like an extra set of clothes, chap stick, and towels all make the whole gym experience better. You can get out of your sweaty clothes and into some fresh, comfortable clothing.
I bought one of these bags for my friend and she loves it. They have a few different colors also.
Conclusion
This routine is designed to be tough, easy to learn, and it produces results when you put the work in. This routine is great for beginners to learn and get comfortable in the gym. Keep track of your progress and you will be surprised how your body starts to transform into your goals.
If you have any questions please feel free to leave them below, I’ll answer them all!



I’m so excited to have stumbled upon this (on pinterest BTW )! I’ve been wanting to start weight training because I’ve been doing cardio and resistance training and not seeing the results I want. I’m looking more for overall fitness as opposed to weight loss. My goal is to be toned! For someone who’s NEVER lifted weights and who’s arms look like small twigs, how much weight would you recommend starting at? Thank you!
Amanda,
I’m glad to hear you’ve found the information to be helpful. I want to help you carry that excitement to achieve some results! I would recommend starting with a lighter weight to get used to the movement and then you move up from there. A good rule of thumb that I use is if it was too easy to complete the reps, then it’s not working. So if you are doing a set of 8 on an exercise.. you should only be able to get 9 maybe 10 max… the goal is to push yourself to adapt.
Clean up your diet, get a good feel for the weights and once you get comfortable with the exercises, you can start progressing in weight and seeing results.
I hope this helps, let me know how you progress!
I just wanted to send you a really quick update to thank you for this article!
I’ve been following these guidelines for 3 weeks, tweaking it of course with my schedule and my other fitness activities, and following a “cleaner” more protein enriched diet.
In the three weeks I have noticed my metabolism going again, more energy and best of all… the beginning of some good muscle growth! My “twig” arms are already starting to get some good definition!
Thanks again for writing this piece. I am definitely the type of person that needs to have things written out in a definite and understandable way.
You rock!
Amanda
Hi,
Could you please post some dumbbell alternatives for the machines or ways to transition away from the machines and on to free weights?
Thanks!
Kate,
My next two articles will be for (1) Dumbbell alternatives for machines, and then (2) how to transition away from machines to free weights. Thank you for your input. If you have any other articles you would like to see, please feel free to let me know!
Kate,
Check out the newest article I wrote, 38 Dumbbell Alternatives to Machine Exercises. Let me know what you think!
Thank you so much for the article.
So Ive been going to a group circuit training that is mostly focused on body weight lifting and some weight lifting for 45 minutes 5 to 6 days a week for the past 5 weeks. I eat pretty much the items on the list you provided plus vegetables, fruits, PB2, almonds, and Greek yogurt. I try to drink a recovery protein shake and a normal protein shake in a day. I’ve seen a lot of imprivemtns but not as much muscle definition. I really Iike to have defined absolutely and upper back muscles. Do you have any suggestions?
Thank you again!
Neelou
Neelou,
Congrats on going to a group circuit training; it seems as if you’re on the right track for success. I would recommend sticking with what you are doing until roughly 12 weeks have passed. I know that seems like a long time, but while you put your time in the classes, you are improving your cardiovascular health, muscle endurance, and will keep improving as you go. The reason I say wait a total of 12 weeks (or however long the classes go) is because generally you won’t start actually seeing the results until then. You may notice things fit different or you look different, but most of my clients don’t actually notice definition and muscle building until after the 12 week mark.
Once you finish with that and you want to get more defined, I suggest looking at how many calories you eat and your overall weight goals. You most likely will need to build more muscle by way of weight training and maintaining a leaner body with cardio and exercise like you are now. While it is possible to become defined through what you are doing, you’re going to need to lose a lot of body fat (regardless of weight) because you will not have a lot of muscle mass to show off.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
Byrn,
It was great to stumble upon this article just as I was getting back to the gym 2 weeks ago. I train alone and over the past 2 weeks have found it every easy to learn. So, I’ve completed each workout twice and so far I’m feeling great and know what amount of weight to use for each exercise. But I’m curious, when should I try using more weight? And how much would you recommend adding?
Crystal,
I’m glad to hear that you’re gaining confidence and learning as you go. It’s important to learn and be confident in what you are doing – it will ensure you progress.
As for adding weight, if you’ve completed your exercise and achieved every rep of every set, the next week you should try to do more weight.
Since fitness is a life-long goal, doing smaller increments is better than larger increments. Generally I recommend going up 5 pounds on dumbbell exercises, the next plate on machine exercises, and 5-10 on barbell exercises. Some gyms do not have 2.5 pound weights (which I would recommend buying some if you don’t have any. These 2.5lb plates would be great). They are a little expensive but they are worth having because it can take a while to successfully jump 10 pounds on the barbell.
But you should always try to increase the weight some or add reps if you cannot complete all of the reps at a higher weight. The goal is to do better than you did the last time you came in.
If you have any more questions, feel free to ask!
I only have 3lbs and 5lbs weights and a medicine ball. I’m just starting out and I would like to know if these weights will work or should I get something different. I can’t afford a gym membership right now. I do have a treadmill and just started walking on it.
Thanks April
Yes for starting out it would work out well. When you exercise, I would do the exercise until you can’t do it anymore. This is called going until failure. Since the weight is lighter, you will need to increase the amount of reps that you do to make it effective.
You could certainly start making progress towards your goals using that equipment. I would recommend saving up and getting a set of adjustable dumbbells next so you can continue exercising at home and still make progress.